13. April 2008 · 2 comments · Categories: Uncategorized · Tags: , ,


Need a house?

For those unaware, I’ve been going crazy since early March getting our house ready to sell. Unlike in Florida, where we didn’t have to do jack squat for the house to sell in summer 2005, this time around we’re making this place look like a museum, new paint all around, repairs, powerwashing, new landscaping, as much as we’re willing to budget.

Since we can’t currently guarantee we’re going to make any money on the house, we can’t go too nuts. No new appliances, no new flooring, carpeting, roof, etc. The most we’re investing in is an exterior trim paint job.

But there’s this show on HGTV called “Get It Sold” and we’ve been enjoying learning about these little low-cost tips to “stage” the house. One of the recommendations is that we remove personal pictures and replace those picture frames with more neutral artwork.

Dave and I had prided ourselves in our living room, filled with black-and-white 8 x 10 portraits of the family, with the only color picture being the full-sized family portrait over the fireplace. You can see what I’m talking about in this picture from Easter morning (yes, Dave’s wearing bunny ears, what a trooper!):

We didn’t want to run out to Bed Bath and Beyond or some art store to spend money on neutral stuff that we wouldn’t even want to take to Nebraska.

Dave came up with the idea to make some 8 x 10 black and white prints of some of the less personal photography we might have on our computers. He and I spent the better part of an evening browsing our digital photo collection (about 19,000 pictures, going back to 2002) looking for something worth blowing up and hanging on our wall. Oh yeah, it has to look good in black and white!

After Dave campaigned (and lost) for a picture of a calf, and I campaigned (and lost) for a picture of Mount Washington, NH we settled on 5 very nice pictures, that we had Shutterfly blow up for us for a grand total of $20.02! I’m in the middle of re-framing the black and whites right now and it’s looking very impressive.

The picture of the tall ship goes into our bedroom, while the other 4 pictures will be in the living room, in black “floating” frames.

08. April 2008 · 2 comments · Categories: Uncategorized · Tags: ,

Anthony Pearson is someone who has been part of my Air Force life since Day 1, quite literally. It was 1995, and I had my orders to my first duty assignment at Fort Polk, LA. I happened to report to the base the same week that MSgt Tony Pearson and his family were reporting into the same weather flight…in mid-June 1995. So he and I got to experience in-processing together, and he and I were learning the ropes about the base, the weather flight and the special culture of west-central Louisiana.

He was learning those ropes much faster than I was, of course.

Tony was my first “station chief”. He was the weather flight’s senior enlisted member, and over my 3 years at Fort Polk, he’d be regarded as a father figure to most of us while we went through some pretty rocky leadership changes.

But for me, he was like a father figure in other ways, too.

He was there when Dave and I got married. He and I were married by a Justice of the Peace in Leesville, LA and had somewhat of a mini-wedding reception at the base weather station. My own parents were in Guam at the time, and Dave and I always had it in our minds that we’d have a real wedding later…but I guess after nearly 13 years, that vision has faded. Tony was there.

He was very patient with me. During a 6 month period when I was the highest ranking member of Fort Polk’s weather flight — as a 2nd Lieutenant! — he did an exceptional job ensuring I was learning how to make decisions properly. He was a significant part of me not losing my mind altogether when I was brought in to weigh on decisions that impacted Airmens’ lives in so many ways — was I really supposed to recommend a demotion for someone 10 years older than me with a wife and 2 kids? Tony patiently educated me on Air Force weather knowledge, as well as general military knowledge — and quite a bit of life knowledge too.Sometimes stress would get the better of me — I’d be frustrated over some Army First Sergeant dressing down one of our Airmen, or battling the Army’s supply system, or not understanding why SSgt Bruns didn’t get that Army Acheievement Medal when her partner did. More than once I was in Tony’s office in tears. And he’d listen.

And then he’d tell me to clean up and get back out there and do good things.

Tony has always been well grounded in his faith. In fact, as a 2nd Lt I have to admit I was taken aback by some of his candid discussions about whether I’d found Jesus Christ as my Savior. I was taught in AFROTC that we didn’t discuss such things while on duty. I did go to church with him and his family occasionally, and some of our discussions about faith had some influence in decisions later in my life. I was baptized Lutheran in 2002.

After Dave and I had moved on from Fort Polk, Tony and I continued to exchange Christmas cards, and one day in about 2005 he put in a “Friend Request” on MySpace. We’d exchange the occasional e-mail when it came to news about some of our mutual friends/colleagues in the Air Force. “Did you hear Phil Hardin got a commission?” “Sean Campbell’s in Afghanistan…” “I’m separating from the Air Force.”

By this time, Tony had retired from the AF and was working as a government civilian for the weather squadron at Shaw AFB.

This past summer when I had transfered Reserve jobs to Shaw AFB, I knew right away I’d have to get in touch with Tony and tell him I’d be on hand at least 1 weekend per month. It wasn’t long before I got to see him again…I was put on one of his ops center shifts for training! It had been 9 years from when I left Fort Polk and we didn’t miss a beat with our banter, our memories and our heated discussions about the Continuous Polar Front Theory (we tend to disagree there).

He and I both participated in a push-ups challenge in November. I think the shift members (about 22-24 people) were attempting to do 25000 push ups during their 12 hour shift. I contributed what I could, so did Tony.

Dave and the boys joined me for a drill weekend this past January. Tony saw Dave and me through many ups and downs while we were at Fort Polk — we probably only spent about 1/3 of our time there actually together, and the separations were quite hard on us. I was proud to show off to Tony my happy family! He was very proud to show off his happy family to me 🙂

When I arrived for my February drill, I found out that earlier in the day Tony had been rushed into emergency surgery in Columbia to save an abdominal blockage. During the surgery they found evidence of cancer. A couple people expressly told me to make sure I found time to visit Tony during my drill weekend, so my commander and I made a trip during the weekend.

Tony was in the ICU…folks who had seen him the day before just out of surgery were telling me he was quite groggy on his drugs. I was fortunate, Lt Col Buckler and I walked into a very alert, chipper Tony who proudly showed off his surgery scar first thing! And during our 20 minute visit, he did most of the talking. He detailed how he had received a clean bill of health just the month prior from his Primary Care Provider, and how he woke up on a Wednesday morning with a stomach ache. When he couldn’t stop vomiting, he went to the emergency room. The scan of his abdomen showed an enormous blockage, and the news of the cancer was a surprise to everyone! But in the ICU that afternoon, Tony was in wonderful spirits, and I was so pleased to see him so happy I cried!

After that drill weekend, he hit some bumps in his recovery, needed additional surgeries, and just couldn’t seem to get out of the ICU. I had the flu during most of my Annual Training at the end of the Feb/beginning of March, so I didn’t want to risk anything and avoided the VA Hospital during those two weeks.

I got the news of his passing in an e-mail from my flights’ operations superintendant on Monday, March 31st. While I was disappointed that I didn’t get to visit with him just one more time, I was pleased that I was able to spend some time with him in his last months, and that Dave got to see him one more time recently, as well.

He had a beautiful memorial service with full military honors in Dalzell, SC on Thursday, April 3rd. Dave and I drove down for it. Once again, Wendy and Chuck watched the boys.

Tony would have been proud of the sea of blue — dozens of Airmen in their service dress uniforms — sitting in the church for his memorial. Tony never did care for fatigues/camoflauge/battle uniforms unless you were actually in field conditions.

Once again, there was that bittersweet feeling when seeing so many people that we hadn’t seen in nearly 10 years: Mike Edelson, the NCO who trained both Dave and me on the forecast counter at Fort Polk and later worked with the both of us in Korea, Dee Pearson (Tony’s wife), who we hadn’t seen since Fort Polk, and his children, David and Shea.

Several members of my reserve flight were struck hard by Tony’s passing, too. He was to walk one of our Airmen down the aisle at her wedding this coming winter.

The thing that really struck my heart strings, though, was that Tony was only 51, and he had merely awakened with a tummy ache 8 weeks prior. And it was colo-rectal cancer that took him from this earth in such a short time.

Like in the previous blog post, I happened across a snapshot I had taken of Tony from his 41st birthday in 1998. Note his blue uniform…he was probably the only one on all of Fort Polk in his day-to-day “blues”.

I’ll miss you! You’ll always be MSgt Pearson to me!

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07. April 2008 · 1 comment · Categories: Uncategorized · Tags: ,

This has been quite the past two weeks. Two deaths.

You might remember me mentioning that I’d had a slow day because I was upset about a high school friend’s death in combat in Afghanistan. When I’d found out Willie Jefferson was a fellow Airman, and I’d learned more about what he was doing for the Air Force and what he was doing when he was killed, I grew even more emotional. I have to admit, I don’t think Dave had ever seen me this down.

I found out he went by “Will” in recent years. I apologize for still calling him “Willie”, his nickname in high school. Here’s his obituary.

On Wednesday, March 26th, Wendy watched my boys while I drove down to Pope AFB, just south of here and I had the honor of seeing Willie’s military memorial, and it was done with grace and dignity. Willie was an Air Force Special Operations NCO and he was working with Army Special Operations while in Afghanistan, and it was quite a sight to see both the Air Force Special Operations and Army Special Forces commanders at the memorial. This was my first military memorial for a fallen Airman, and I held my emotions in check until I saw the faces of his wife and daughter as they were leaving the ceremony with the offical party. The pure sorrow was heartbreaking, and upon seeing them I felt a pang of sadness I hadn’t felt since I came home from the hospital after Jacob’s birth without Jacob (who remained in the NICU for his first 6 days).

It was also bittersweet to re-kindle some friendships that had slacked off over the years, as many of my high school friends took time to look on MySpace and Facebook and apparently came across my profiles. Von and Melba, it’s great to hear from you again!

Like I’d mentioned on the 24th, Dave told me he was surprised at how hard I had taken Willie’s death, since I hadn’t seen — or even HEARD about him — in the past 17 years. I was surprised, too.

So, in honor of TSgt William Jefferson, I’ve found this really nice picture of him that I took at the 1990 Lake Taylor High School Ring Dance. That cute gal next to him is Susan, still one of my best friends.

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But then, exactly one week later, I received news of another death in my Air Force family, someone much closer in my recent life. I put that into a separate post — the second part started to get long.

25. March 2008 · Comments Off on It’s Been One of Those Days… · Categories: Uncategorized · Tags: ,

I’ve been sorta, well, SLOW today. Last evening at about 11:30pm, I received an e-mail from my friend Susan in Norfolk about her seeing news of one of our high school classmates getting killed in Afghanistan. So I did a little research and found out that our friend, William Jefferson, was an Air Force Combat Controller stationed at Pope AFB just south of here. The work he did for the Air Force was pretty high speed and among the most dangerous for Airmen. He was in Afghanistan when his vehicle was struck by an IED.

I was pretty upset at the news and didn’t sleep too well last night. Since I worked all day on Sunday cleaning the house, plus mowing the lawn and doing some landscaping, plus making a nice Easter dinner…I was pooped. But my mind was too busy to rest well.

So I’ve been very sluggish today. I helped Susan pass the word about Willie’s death to some of our other high school classmates, and I was able to get on the phone with the public affairs office at Pope AFB and found out about a memorial service scheduled on Wednesday morning. I think I’d like to go…I just need to arrange child care and reschedule a parent/teacher conference and I think I’ll be set.

Dave suggested dinner out for the family tonight, and while at dinner he mentioned that he didn’t think I’d take Willie’s death so hard, considering I’d NEVER mentioned him before. He’s right, I hadn’t. Willie wasn’t exactly a close friend, but we had many classes together during our 4 years of high school.

Upon reflection, last night I had realized that in the 6 1/2 years since we’d first invaded Afghanistan, and in the 5 years since we’d entered Iraq, TSgt Jefferson is the first combat death that’s struck a personal chord.

Also, my kitchen laptop died yet AGAIN. Another hard drive format, another reinstallation of Windows XP — which has to be followed by Service Pack 2, Wireless card adapter, IE 7.0, and an Anti-Virus. That’s just so I can hop back on here and write this to you. But it’s back up, by some miracle.

Early bedtime tonight! Stay tuned for updates on the ant farm (it’s still going strong!), getting the house “Staged” for going on the market in early May, and my struggles with Pez.

19. February 2008 · 1 comment · Categories: Uncategorized · Tags: , ,

I’m not going to say too much about this, since I’m just a weather weenie in the Reserves, but I have been noticing the USAF getting a lot of press about how we’re suffering manpower cuts and cannibalization of aircraft to keep our missions viable in the Global War on Terror, while the Army and Marine Corps are being funded to increase their ranks by thousands.

Never mind that for every increase in Army capability, you need Air Force airlift to fly them to the fight, Air Force aerial refuelers to gas the airlift, Air Force close-air-support to help the ground troops, and Air Force PERSONNEL to support various facets of their requirements(among those personnel are weather folks — read the Air Force Magazine article linked with “PERSONNEL” to learn more about the “Battlefield Airmen”).

I have no idea who this guy is, but he’s doing “Combat Weather” with an Army Aviation unit.
Apparently someone is launching quite the press campaign about it.

As Forrest Gump would say, “That’s all I have to say about that.”

As most of my loyal readers know, the Vollmer family has a move coming up. Dave has orders to Offutt AFB, Nebraska, and this week he got the first batch of paperwork verifying things. He had to select what date we want to leave North Carolina…and that resulted in a lot of discussion. It turns out the public schools in Bellevue, NE start on AUGUST 12th!

What???

Who wants to start school that early??? I remember being flabbergasted at how early the kids started in Brevard County, FL, when Dave and I were stationed at Patrick AFB.

Well, for some reason, it’s VERY important to me that if Jake has a chance to start school on the first day of school, he does so. After all, we’re talking about Kindergarten — the most important day of his life…

…well, thus far.

The point is, Jake will have enough other things to worry about with our move…having to single him out as the “new kid” a week after Kindergarten starts? I don’t think that’s cool.

So I convinced Dave to put “August 7th” as the date we’re leaving NC. Yes, it’ll be a fast trip to NE, but for Jake, I think if we can get him into the school routine as soon as he arrives, things will be good for him. The sooner he’ll make friends, establish a routine, and he won’t have to sit around bored while the furniture is being delivered.

Also, the upcoming move has had me looking at everything in my house so I can mentally label it “Should it stay or should it go?” Many things are illegal for the movers to take: candles, lightbulbs, liquids of any kind. Which means if we really want to take it along, we have to find room in our van or car.

This weekend I took a look under my bathroom sink and saw so many Bath and Body Works, Body Shop, and other pretty-smelling lotions, eaus, and body splashes. I thought to myself, “I can’t take all of it with me.”

Infant toys, magazines, clothes that are too small/out of style, pantry foods that I bought then changed my mind about preparing: need to get it squared away before July!